Wow. Is this for real?

I"m up way to late. I JUST got done catching up on my blog roll. I have to say, I'm a little sad.

One blogger, Bee , is having a REALLY tough time. She has lost close to 80 pounds I think, but is now really stressed out. You know I have a problem with eating when I'm stressed, so I really feel for her. She is binging, and even started smoking again. If you have time, would you go give her a little encouragement? I think she really needs it right now. Thanks :)

I'm also a little disgusted...
Another blogger is leaving, because she was bullied so bad that she is going to quit her blog.
How sad is that??? I would send you to her blog as well, but I know she has made up her mind.

I just feel really bad, because I don't know how I would react to something like that. She started her blog to have help, and share her journey... and to be picked on like that is just so unnecessary.

If you don't like someones blog, don't follow it! It's one thing to comment on the blog when you don't agree or just stop following it... But to keep following it, and posting mean things on your own blog about it, links to her blog, things that aren't true, and just plain picking on her... why?

At first I really thought he had a good heart and the best intentions... but I watched it all unfold, and it got pretty ridiculous. I finally did make a comment as to why this person was so hard on others that don't do it his way... and he didn't post my comment. After JUST saying he posts any and all comments. I finally had to quit reading that blog. Partly because he doesn't really post all comments, Mostly because I am so tired of all the negativity, and it just wasn't good for me. Posting bad things about people, and including a link so you can go bully them too??? (Oh not just to this blogger, he does it a LOT.) It's just to much. Especially now that I see he actually used her real name, that she did NOT make public, only told him privately when they were "friends." I just can't understand... it's all just so childish.

You want to know the worst part? This is true, I'm NOT making this up:
Attacking her isn't enough, he actually called on his blogger "friends" to back him up! To stick up for him and join in the bullying! No, I'm not kidding. It's true!!! And What's worse? A few of his followers actually listened to him... I mean, I've heard of being a follower- but holy shit!!!! Now THAT'S what I call a follower!!! Is this high school or what?!?!?!

I'm not going to send you to his blog, I would NOT lower myself to giving you links to go attack someone. That is just plain immature and unnecessary. Just know that this BS is actually going on... it's mind blowing to me!!! It really makes me not want to trust anyone, or give out any real info. To think someone might use it later if they don't agree with my weight loss plan??? WOW. Be careful who you trust!

Some of us struggle, if you don't... GREAT. Be happy, thankful, and PROUD... but don't pick on someone because they are not having an easy time... what's the point? I just don't get it.

I feel bad that she is going. I feel bad that she LET him push her out of blog land. :( I only hope she stays on her journey and accomplishes her goals.

For anyone reading, PLEASE don't let anyone come in between you and your goals, or happiness. You deserve to be happy and no one can take that away from you, unless you LET them.

Bleh.
There's my 2 cents on it lol.
I'm usually pretty laid back here in blog land... usually just watch and don't get involved. But once in a while I just have to get things off my chest. I guess I just can't stand everyone in his corner and no one in hers...
In real life I don't usually have that problem, I say what I think right away. It's got me into trouble a time or two, but it's usually worth it :)

I also read some great posts, about NSVs and accomplishments. Even a song or two lol. Saw some great pictures, you KNOW I love me some pictures :) So it's not all bad!

It's late, and I still have to do the treadmill!!!! I'm not going to make my midnight curfew tonight. That's ok, I'll catch up on some sleep this weekend :) Hope you all had a great day!

If the internet cooperates, I'll see you tomorrow!!!

I Found Something You Might LIKE!

I had to quick come and share with you.
I've been following Mark over at Fatophobia for a while now. I never signed up for the weight loss tracker or any thing. I was curious, but I just figured I keep track of all that here. Well, now he also has a place to Share, and I thought I might as well sign up, so I can take advantage of that and comment when I want, ect.
I checked out the Tracker today, and I have to say, it's pretty awesome!
I'm not one to weigh in EVERY day, but it has that option... It also has a food diary option (haven't checked that out yet).
It keeps track of your "target" dates, which I thought was pretty nice too. You know I don't do target weights, but as I said yesterday, I really want to do well this week and get back in the green. I need a jump start to get my ass in gear lol. So I set my target for next Friday (weigh day) and I want to weigh 278 pounds. So we will see!!! You can also set your goal weight, and any other targets. It has a calendar and a chart that keeps track of your weight. I like it :) In fact, I wish I would have signed up earlier! Maybe I will try and weigh in ever day, for just a little while! I'll see if it helps or makes me CRAZY. lol :)
I put in my info, and found out my BMI is 43.6. I was curios, and just never took the time to check it out. That's probably pretty horrible, but at least now I know. And now I will be able to keep track of it.
Oh, and by info- I meant name, email, height, weight, and a user name to go by (TinaM). You don't have to fill out some long form or anything, Or I wouldn't have done it lol! Easy Peasy.
Ok, that's all I wanted. Had to share because I think it's pretty cool. You should check it out!

Thanks Mark!

I'll be back later for your regularly scheduled program :)

My 5 Words

The 5 words I picked were for the award in my last post.

I wanted to elaborate on it, 

because I thought a lot before settling on one.

Yesterday's Gone, Live for Today

 This applies to my weight loss journey,

Because I have tried to think this way,

I no longer have 'start over' days, weeks or months.

That has helped me tremendously,

not throwing away a whole week because I messed up.

It applies to my life too...

I was going to say "Forget Yesterday, live for Today"

but I don't want to forget.

Yesterday is what made me who I am,

and if I forget, I will not be me....

and I will repeat the mistakes of my past.

Again, that goes with my weight loss and my life.

Of course I have days
where thinking of yesterday affects me,

gets me down...

But it's part of my life.

I can't change it,

but I can learn from it.

I think this will be a new motto for me,

of course I won't forget the one I've lived by since I can remember

"It Could Always be Worse"

but I like this new one :)

Something in the Air?

I'm all caught up on my blog roll, I have read everyday even though I wasn't writing mine.
Is there something in the air??? There seems to be a lot of negativity and Fat on Fat crime :) Yeah, I just made that up. That JUST happened Haha :)

It's weighing on my mind, so I'll just put my 2 cents in real quick so I can move on...

Loosing weight is hard. I recently had someone say very mean and hurtful things to me in a comment, but I'm over that. She's never 'been there' and I will just have to accept that some people don't understand. What's worse though, is all this I see now! Where it's people that KNOW how hard it is to loose weight coming down so hard on others that are struggling... hence my new term Fat on Fat Crime ;)

It's very hard for me to understand. These people have been there, know how hard it is, and still some how thing it's ok to look down and tell people "It's Easy."

If it was easy, NO ONE WOULD BE FAT. If it was easy, these people wouldn't have been fat all their lives either...

If you have lost a lot of weight, you should be proud! If you want to help others, that is AWESOME, and we love you for it. But please don't pretend that just because (after years, or even decades of being fat) you have done well now, that it is easy. It's just not. We should support each other, not hurt each other. If you see someone struggling (even if that person is me!), and it is hurting your progress or to hard to watch... wish them well and move on.

I am not picking out any one person either, I've seen it all over and really do think it might just be in the air. Fall is coming and maybe those warm summer days leaving, have some of us a little... irritable??? I know I have been... maybe more depressed than irritable... but no more!!!! :) I am going to try my best to stay positive!
I've lost 42 pounds, I never thought that would be possible. I am proud, but am still obese. I have a long way to go. Even when I get to 100 pounds lost, I can not imagine ever telling ANYONE that this is easy, or beating them up when they fall. I just can't. I guess that's why I don't understand, because I know I couldn't do that to some one that is struggling...

I'm not only writing it to get it out of my brain, but to show what I expect from you on my blog. Haha, not to sound high and mighty, I'm just being honest here...
Maybe that's part of the reason people do this? They don't know what the blogger is looking for, and think tough love is what some people need??? So Just like any relationship in my real life, I'll be clear: I don't need it. I need support, honesty, suggestions, constructive criticism, and just to know I'm not alone. I have a sense of humor, and I can take criticism. No problem! That's why I don't filter my 'comments.'
I don't need my ass kissed, but at the same time I DO NOT NEED someone to leave me sarcastic bitchy comments, or someone to tell me that 'it's easy' and 'just do it.' If you like to write these things, don't bother on my blog.
If you are someone trying to do well and my struggles are not good for your journey, I really hope you would wish me well and find blogs that ARE good for you. I would feel HORRIBLE if I was negatively affecting anyone. But I would feel great to know that you are moving on, but still have the best hope for my journey too :) That's what I would do for you.
Just remember that golden rule, treat others as you would want to be treated. Share your experiences without belittling someone else's. Share your knowledge but never forget where you came from. Keep it real, but remember it's really hard. Tell the truth but no need to be a jerk about it. That's how I hope I come across, anyway. Always honest... but not a bitch :)

And there's my 2 cents! I'd like to think it's worth a little more... maybe even 56 cents lol :)

*The term 'Fat on Fat Crime' has been copy written by TinaM. Any violation or use of this phrase by unauthorized individuals will result in a $50,000 fine and/or the possibility of prison time.
Just kidding :)