I"m up way to late. I JUST got done catching up on my blog roll. I have to say, I'm a little sad.
One blogger, Bee , is having a REALLY tough time. She has lost close to 80 pounds I think, but is now really stressed out. You know I have a problem with eating when I'm stressed, so I really feel for her. She is binging, and even started smoking again. If you have time, would you go give her a little encouragement? I think she really needs it right now. Thanks :)
I'm also a little disgusted...
Another blogger is leaving, because she was bullied so bad that she is going to quit her blog.
How sad is that??? I would send you to her blog as well, but I know she has made up her mind.
I just feel really bad, because I don't know how I would react to something like that. She started her blog to have help, and share her journey... and to be picked on like that is just so unnecessary.
If you don't like someones blog, don't follow it! It's one thing to comment on the blog when you don't agree or just stop following it... But to keep following it, and posting mean things on your own blog about it, links to her blog, things that aren't true, and just plain picking on her... why?
At first I really thought he had a good heart and the best intentions... but I watched it all unfold, and it got pretty ridiculous. I finally did make a comment as to why this person was so hard on others that don't do it his way... and he didn't post my comment. After JUST saying he posts any and all comments. I finally had to quit reading that blog. Partly because he doesn't really post all comments, Mostly because I am so tired of all the negativity, and it just wasn't good for me. Posting bad things about people, and including a link so you can go bully them too??? (Oh not just to this blogger, he does it a LOT.) It's just to much. Especially now that I see he actually used her real name, that she did NOT make public, only told him privately when they were "friends." I just can't understand... it's all just so childish.
You want to know the worst part? This is true, I'm NOT making this up:
Attacking her isn't enough, he actually called on his blogger "friends" to back him up! To stick up for him and join in the bullying! No, I'm not kidding. It's true!!! And What's worse? A few of his followers actually listened to him... I mean, I've heard of being a follower- but holy shit!!!! Now THAT'S what I call a follower!!! Is this high school or what?!?!?!
I'm not going to send you to his blog, I would NOT lower myself to giving you links to go attack someone. That is just plain immature and unnecessary. Just know that this BS is actually going on... it's mind blowing to me!!! It really makes me not want to trust anyone, or give out any real info. To think someone might use it later if they don't agree with my weight loss plan??? WOW. Be careful who you trust!
Some of us struggle, if you don't... GREAT. Be happy, thankful, and PROUD... but don't pick on someone because they are not having an easy time... what's the point? I just don't get it.
I feel bad that she is going. I feel bad that she LET him push her out of blog land. :( I only hope she stays on her journey and accomplishes her goals.
For anyone reading, PLEASE don't let anyone come in between you and your goals, or happiness. You deserve to be happy and no one can take that away from you, unless you LET them.
Bleh.
There's my 2 cents on it lol.
I'm usually pretty laid back here in blog land... usually just watch and don't get involved. But once in a while I just have to get things off my chest. I guess I just can't stand everyone in his corner and no one in hers...
In real life I don't usually have that problem, I say what I think right away. It's got me into trouble a time or two, but it's usually worth it :)
I also read some great posts, about NSVs and accomplishments. Even a song or two lol. Saw some great pictures, you KNOW I love me some pictures :) So it's not all bad!
It's late, and I still have to do the treadmill!!!! I'm not going to make my midnight curfew tonight. That's ok, I'll catch up on some sleep this weekend :) Hope you all had a great day!
If the internet cooperates, I'll see you tomorrow!!!
toil and trouble
1 day ago
You know I had just read Just Me's post about qutting before this one. I admit I haven't followed her as closely as some, but was starting to recently. I know you don't want to name and shame publicly, but who is this guy? You can e-mail/message me if you want.
ReplyDeleteIt's weird, we work really hard on ourselves to improve our health, but we also put in a fair amount of effort to support others. It seems crazy that someone would put so much effort into destroying all that for someone else?
Such a shame that he has driven her out of the blogosphere. I wonder who he'll target next. Bullies always need someone to work on.
Even though I was a new follower and I don't really know much about her, I hate this sort of thing. Makes me wish we could have circled the wagons or something. Unfortunately she's deleting her posts so it's pretty serious.
Think there's anything that can be done to change her mind? :(
Hugs...I completely agree with what you are saying about people bullying...like my mom always said- if you don't have anything nice to say...keep your damn mouth shut....hope that all goes well today!!
ReplyDeleteI really don't think we can change her mind Mark :(
ReplyDeleteI think it's made up, especially since she already deleted almost her whole blog!
Honestly, I don't want this guy picking on me, so I didn't use his name. If he did, I know it wouldn't affect me like it does some, but I'd just rather not go there you know?
I also just think it isn't right to put links so others can attack people, I didn't want to stoop to that level.
It's just really sad, especially if it's true that this isn't the first time it's happened
:( Some people are so vulnerable, and for people to exploit that is sick.
I agree colenic, there is just no reason for it. I can see constructive criticism, but this is CRAZY!
My day is going crappy lol. But I just weighed in so I feel better! Woo Hoo!!! :)
Thanks colenic!